Dating: Part I
Dating used to be a huge priority in my life.
I would go out of my way to look for something that sparked. I had to find someone because by society’s standards, we aren’t really happy without someone right? I used to believe that, but screw that. I don’t need a partner to be happy. Honestly though, a part of me is tired of disappointment, which might be why I’m pulling back from actively going out of my way to meet people. Either way, I can be happy even while being single and so can you.
Nowadays I feel like it’ll happen when the time is right. The right person will find their way to me in the most unconventional way (because everything about my life is unconventional). That person most likely will stumble into my life because I’m stumbling around (but with purpose and direction) so it only makes sense. Someone that’s just as a mess as I am, but passionate about the world, full of love and hope. Someone that looks at the world the way I look at it. But for right now, I’m not going to go out of my way to look for anything. I need to worry about making myself happy. I need to prioritize bettering myself, creating new goals, achieving them and doing the things that I love.
Keep doing you and it’ll find you when you least expect it.
The last person that really impacted me found their way to me by a slim chance. We crossed paths by a matter of seconds. We could have never met, but we did and we had incredible chemistry. I had never felt more comfortable with someone within just a few minutes of conversing, but with him it felt like we had known each other for a long time. I felt like I could be accepted even at my worst from the very beginning. I don’t believe in coincidence. Everything happens for a reason. Looking back, meeting him taught me that something so incredible can find it’s way to me on it’s own. It found it’s way to me once, it’ll definitely find it’s way to me again. You don’t need to go out of your way looking for the right person. When the time is right the they’ll stumble into your life. So expect the unexpected.
In the end things didn’t work out for us, and that’s okay. I’m so grateful for him to have stumbled into my life. He seems to be happy and he deserves all the happiness in the world.
Dating is like software updates.
Just like softwares, in dating there’s always something that can be learned and improved, whether it may be something you want and value or something you don’t like. Some people you meet may have a lot of “software bugs” per say (aka shitty personality traits). That’s why you need to update (boy bye). You have to identify the issue, fix it and keep upgrading to a better version or an entirely new software. With dating, it’s so easy to be disappointed. But no matter what, don’t close yourself off because you’re hurt. Sure go ahead and block that person, get rid of the texts, and don’t talk to them if you want. Just don’t get into the habit of “they’re all the same.” With that mindset you might miss out on someone that’s right for you, and they could be standing right in front of you. With every disappointment, you grow stronger and more keen on what you’re looking for. You have to keep upgrading. It might take you a month, or years to find that someone but don’t settle for less for whatever reason. You deserve to be with someone just as incredible as you are, so be patient.
Take it from me. Even though I’m single now, every person I’ve dated or causally dated have consistently been slightly better than the one before. Keep upgrading. Know your worth. Accept nothing less. They can rise to your standards or leave them in the dust.