Dating Part III

To all of my goal-chasing, hustling friends, this is for you.

I know you don’t want to date because you want to focus on you. You want to create a dent in the world and you can’t afford to use your energy and time on dating and being in a relationship. I felt the same way. I had the mindset of “I’m not going to date someone seriously for the next few years because I don't have time for it. I have to work on me. Now is the only time to work on myself. I can be in a relationship once I’ve established myself, maybe a couple of years from now.”

I don’t believe in this anymore and let me tell you why.

Recently I’ve learned the hard way that life never goes as planned. You can plan it all you want; a time frame for when you’re going to meet someone and get married, the age you’re really going to settle down and maybe have a kid. Life has other plans for you, sorry to break it to you. It’s going to blindside you in ways you never imagined. My pre-quarter-life-crisis helped me understand this. You might meet someone now that you wanted to meet years down the line. Only if the timing is right, right? WAKE UP CALL there is never going to be a perfect time to be dating or to be in a relationship. It always catches you when you least expect it. You might stumble upon someone great when you were the least ready.

And if they’re right for you, then the timing will be right. The right person will match exactly where you’re at in life. 

However, If they’re worth it, it’s worth trying.

As long as it’s with someone that helps you grow, they’re worth investing time in. They might help you grow in ways you can’t on your own. You never know and you will never know if you keep shutting out people. Almost two years ago, I met someone that helped me change my life and none of this would’ve happened if I had rejected him. I knew that the likelihood of getting hurt was very high. However I went all in, vulnerable-hearted, and with the limited time I had, I gave him my all. He was the perfect person that I needed to push my personal growth at the time. I might’ve shed some tears but I am so grateful to have met him. I learned to take risks. I learned that I was capable of having feelings so intense. I learned so much from him and he was everything that I needed at that time to truly develop. I’ve become who I am today because of what I learned from encountering him. I don’t believe in coincidences, but rather everything happens for a reason. As cliché as it is, he stumbled into my life to help me grow.

You might meet someone you really value when you least expect it.

This person might stumble into your life like I did, and when you do, don’t shut them out. Embrace them wholeheartedly. You might get hurt but that’s a risk you have to take and put yourself out there. Be fearless. You’re not going to die.

Trust yourself that you’re going to be okay at the end of it all. No matter what happens, how hurt you may get, you’ll always bounce back.